Divorces aren’t always easy, and it’s not hard to see why some people become disgruntled during them. One spouse might be angry, hurt or frustrated. The other might seem flippant or happy about “getting away” from a relationship they no longer wanted.
This conflict in feelings can lead to arguments and disputes, which have the potential to draw out the length of the divorce. If you are going through a divorce and find yourself in conflict with your estranged spouse, there are some things you can do to help yourself, though.
1. Focus on your own happiness
The first thing you should do is to find balance in your own life and to focus on your own happiness. Whether it’s taking time to see a movie you love or spending time away with friends, getting balance back in your life will help you stop focusing as much on conflict and boost your ability to move forward.
2. Remember that negotiating can be helpful
Another thing to remember is that negotiating can make your divorce move much more quickly and resolve disputes faster. You shouldn’t have to give in every time there’s a dispute, but if you are putting up a fight just to make things more difficult for your spouse, you may want to consider negotiating to help the divorce move forward.
3. Take time away when it’s needed
Finally, take some time away if it’s needed. Oftentimes, disputes seem serious in the moment, but a little time away helps people see more clearly. Try to set aside a few days a week for time away from divorce papers and disputes, so you can mull them over without the stress of deadlines or meetings.
These are some things you can do to help yourself cope during your divorce. Your attorney can talk to you more about how you can take steps to move forward.